THE PROFESSION
Short answer
A sexologist is a trained professional who studies human sexuality and helps people with desire, pleasure, sexual function, communication and intimacy. A certified sexologist works through education, structured conversation and practical exercises you do in private, never through sexual contact. People see one for mismatched libido, pain or performance worries, dating after a break, or wanting a better erotic life.
Sexology sits between education, counselling and health. A session is a structured conversation: we map what is happening in your body, your relationship and your story, name what is getting in the way, and design small experiments you try privately between sessions. Nothing physical ever happens in a session, and nothing you say is treated as strange, because almost every concern people bring is far more common than they believe.
The titles overlap and are not equally regulated. A sex therapist is usually a licensed mental-health clinician working with sexual concerns. A sex coach focuses on goals and practice, with training that varies widely. A certified sexologist has formal education in human sexuality and, when AASECT certified, has completed supervised training and follows a professional code of ethics. The question worth asking any practitioner is simple: what is your training, and who certifies you?
The most common reasons: desire that has faded in a long relationship, partners who want sex at different frequencies, pain or performance anxiety, difficulty reaching orgasm, recovering confidence after a breakup or illness, unlearning shame from a strict upbringing, and couples who have never had language for what they want. Curiosity is a good enough reason too; you do not need a crisis to qualify.
I work online, one to one or as a couple, in ninety-minute sessions. We start with what you want to be different, not with your history, and you decide how much of the story you share. You leave every session with something concrete: a script for a conversation, an exercise to try, or a decision made. Most people notice a shift within two or three sessions.
Yes. Sessions are private, notes are not shared, and nothing is recorded unless you ask for it. If something you raise needs medical or psychiatric care, I say so plainly and help you find the right person rather than working outside my scope.
A sexologist is a professional trained in human sexuality who helps people and couples with desire, pleasure, sexual function, communication and intimacy through education and structured conversation rather than any physical contact.
A sex therapist is typically a licensed mental-health clinician who treats sexual concerns within psychotherapy. A sexologist has specialised education in human sexuality and may work in education, coaching or counselling. AASECT certification is the clearest signal of supervised training and an ethics code for either title.
No. Ethical sexology involves no sexual or physical contact of any kind. Everything practical happens privately, on your own or with your partner, between sessions.
See one when sex has become a source of tension, avoidance or worry, when you and a partner want different amounts or kinds of sex, when pain or performance is interfering, or when you simply want a richer erotic life and lack a language for it.
My private sessions start at €100+ for an individual ninety-minute session and €180+ for couples. Group classes and live online events are €145.
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